“Hearing about my ex’s new boyfriend is one thing, but actually seeing him in person?

 


That’s a whole different level I’m not sure how to mentally handle. Any advice on how to deal with it? Thanks.”

My Take:

Seeing your ex’s new guy in person? Yeah, it’s like walking into a boxing match where you’re the only one not wearing gloves. It’s going to sting—but here’s how you make him the one feeling off-balance: be his buddy.

When you meet him, smile, shake his hand firmly, and act like this guy just solved all your problems. Be polite, relaxed, and unbothered—like you’re not just fine with it, you’re thriving.

Here’s why this works:

  1. He’ll Start to Wonder: “Why is this guy so cool? Did she make me think he was the problem when he’s actually a decent dude?” Plant a little doubt in his head.
  2. She’ll Lose Her Mind: If she’s expecting you to be jealous or bitter, you just flipped the script. She’ll either take it out on him for the rest of the day or start questioning herself: “Why did I leave someone who’s handling this so well?”

Either way, it’s a small win, and let me be honest—these wins can be rare. Play it cool, take the high road, and watch the drama play out from your perfectly unbothered seat.

Resources to Help You Stay Cool and Focused:

  1. "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fck"* by Mark Manson – a refreshing reminder to keep your head clear and priorities straight.
  2. "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie – practical tips to stay calm in tough situations.
  3. Product: A Journal to Write It All Out – sometimes getting your thoughts on paper helps more than you think.
  4. Website: Psychology Today’s Guide to Emotional Regulation – actionable strategies to keep your cool.
  5. Group: Divorced Men’s Support Group – find other guys dealing with the same situations who get it.

You’ve got this—be the guy they didn’t see coming. Cool, confident, and completely in control.

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#StayCool, #DivorceAdvice, #TakeTheHighRoad, #EmotionalStrength, #SmallWinsMatter, #HandleItLikeABoss, #NewChapter, #KeepYourHeadUp, #ThriveNotSurvive, #LetHerWonder


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