I feel like I’m drowning trying to balance taking care of my kids.

 

"I'm a 36-year-old mom of two little girls, ages 3 and 1.5. I’m a full-time homemaker, and I feel like I’m drowning trying to balance taking care of my kids, managing the house, and maintaining my relationship with my husband. Over the past few years, I’ve gained 70 pounds, and it’s made me feel really self-conscious about how I look.

On top of that, people have made hurtful comments like, ‘You look like a 50-year-old aunt’ or ‘Your husband will leave you,’ and it’s wearing me down emotionally. I feel overwhelmed, anxious, and unsure about how to start taking care of myself.

I know I need to focus on my well-being, but I feel stuck and don’t know where to begin. I’m desperate for advice, support, or even just someone to talk to. I’m tired of feeling this way and want to create a better future for myself and my family."

My Take:

First of all, let me tell you—you are far from alone. Motherhood is demanding, especially with two little ones, and it’s no surprise that balancing everything has left you feeling overwhelmed. What you’re experiencing is something many parents go through, but let’s reframe the narrative: You are not failing. You are adapting to an entirely new phase of life, and that’s tough.

Now, let’s tackle this step by step because it’s time to prioritize you.

1. Drown Out the Negativity

Those hurtful comments? Forget them. People who make them are projecting their own insecurities and ignorance. Let’s focus on people who uplift and encourage you.

  • Surround yourself with a support system: friends, family, or even online communities of moms who get it.
  • Create a mantra for yourself: “I am worthy, strong, and deserving of kindness.” Repeat it when the negativity creeps in.

2. Build Self-Compassion

Your body has done something amazing—it’s carried and nurtured two children. Instead of being hard on yourself, give your body credit for that. Start with small, kind gestures toward yourself:

  • Buy a flattering outfit, even if it’s just leggings and a comfy top that make you feel good.
  • Take 15 minutes a day to do something you love—reading, journaling, or just zoning out with a cup of tea.

3. Prioritize Movement and Health

This isn’t about bouncing back or pleasing others. This is about you feeling better physically and emotionally.

  • Start with gentle, realistic goals. A 15-minute walk with your kids or a short yoga session can do wonders for your mental health.
  • Consider trying beginner-friendly workout programs on YouTube (like Yoga with Adriene or walking workouts by Leslie Sansone).

4. Reconnect with Your Partner

Feeling disconnected in your marriage is common during the baby years. Small, consistent efforts to reconnect can help:

  • Plan a simple date night at home after the kids are asleep—order takeout, light candles, and watch a movie together.
  • Share your feelings with your husband. Let him know how you’re struggling; most likely, he wants to support you but doesn’t know how.

5. Professional Support is a Game Changer

You’re dealing with a lot: motherhood, anxiety, self-consciousness, and mental exhaustion. A therapist or counselor could provide tools to help you cope and rebuild your confidence. Look for options covered by insurance or local support groups for moms.

6. Give Yourself Grace

You’re in the thick of one of the most exhausting stages of life, and that’s okay. It’s not permanent. You don’t have to have it all figured out right now. One step at a time is enough.

Resources to Explore:

  1. "The Postpartum Effect: Deadly Depression in Mothers and How to Stop It" by Arlene Matthews Uhl – A helpful read for moms facing similar struggles.
  2. ":Th e Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself" by Dr. Kristin Neff – A guide to letting go of self-criticism.
  3. Fitbit or any step tracker – A fun, encouraging way to get moving and set small goals.
  4. Website: Postpartum Support International – Offers resources and support groups for moms.
  5. Group: Local moms’ support group or MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) – Find your tribe and share your journey.

This is the beginning of a new chapter for you. You’ve already taken the first step by reaching out. You’re not alone, and it’s okay to take things one day at a time. You’ve got this. 💪

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