I got hit with a double whammy this week

 On Monday, I was laid off, and yesterday, the preliminary divorce paperwork arrived. It feels like everything is crashing down at once. I can’t stand my life right now."

My Take:

First off, I want to say—I get it. This week has been a dumpster fire of epic proportions for you. But as hard as it is to see right now, there’s a silver lining to all of this, and it’s worth holding onto.

Let’s break it down:

1. The Layoff Might Be a Blessing in Disguise

  • Sure, losing a job is a punch in the gut, but guess what? That layoff could ease some financial burdens like child support or alimony when it comes to the divorce. With a reduced income, you might be able to negotiate for more manageable terms.
  • Plus, this might be the nudge you didn’t know you needed to find something better—something that makes you actually want to get out of bed in the morning.

2. Divorce Can Be a Fresh Start

  • Yes, it feels awful now, but think of this as clearing the slate. It’s an opportunity to rediscover yourself—your passions, your goals, and your peace of mind.
  • If you’ve been unhappy for a while, this is the beginning of building a life you actually enjoy.

3. Everything Really Does Work Out

  • It’s cheesy, I know, but time and again, people come out the other side of situations like this and find themselves stronger, happier, and more fulfilled. You’re in the thick of it now, but the storm doesn’t last forever.

A Bit of Humor to Lighten the Load:

Right now, it feels like life handed you a divorce AND a layoff as part of some cruel “everything must go” clearance sale. But hey, if they’re going to take your job and your marriage, maybe they’ll throw in the ex’s lawyer’s phone number for free?

Helpful Resources:

  1. "Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy" by Sheryl Sandberg and Adam Grant – A fantastic book on how to rebuild when life knocks you down, available on Amazon.
  2. CareerOneStop – Free tools to explore career options, get training, and find new opportunities.

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