I'M LEAVING!

 

"I’m leaving my husband of almost 9 years this Friday. We’ve been together for 11 years and have three kids. I’ve never had to support myself before, and I’m absolutely terrified.

He’s been abusive in every sense—physically, emotionally, verbally—and refuses all forms of counseling, including couples counseling. I know this is the right thing for me and my kids, but I’m having panic attacks and feel like a wreck.

I went straight from being raised by my grandparents to being with him, so I’ve never been on my own. I just need to hear that I’m doing the right thing. 😭"

My Take:

First, let me tell you without hesitation: you are doing the right thing. Choosing to leave an abusive relationship takes incredible strength, and the fact that you’re taking this step shows how deeply you care about protecting yourself and your children.

Yes, the unknown is terrifying, especially when you’ve never lived independently. But here’s the thing: you’re not just stepping into the unknown—you’re stepping into freedom, safety, and the chance to rebuild a life where you and your kids can thrive.

Why This Is the Right Move:

  1. You’re Protecting Your Kids

    • Kids learn what love and respect look like from their parents. By leaving, you’re showing them that love isn’t control, fear, or harm.

  2. Counseling Won’t Fix Him

    • He’s refused counseling and made no effort to change. Staying would only prolong the cycle of abuse.

  3. You’re Stronger Than You Think

    • Yes, this is scary, but you’ve already taken the hardest step: deciding to leave. Every step from here is progress toward a better life.

What to Focus On:

  1. Practical Plans

    • Make sure you have essential documents (ID, birth certificates, bank info) packed and ready.
    • Reach out to local domestic violence resources for support. They can help with housing, legal aid, and emotional counseling.

  2. Build a Support System

    • Lean on friends, family, and organizations. Even online groups can offer invaluable advice and encouragement.

  3. Give Yourself Grace

    • You don’t have to figure it all out overnight. Take it one step, one day at a time. You’re allowed to feel scared—it’s part of the process—but don’t let it stop you.

Helpful Resources:

  1. National Domestic Violence Hotline – Call 800-799-SAFE (7233) or chat online for confidential support.
  2. "Why Does He Do That?" by Lundy Bancroft – A powerful book to help you understand abusive behavior and rebuild your confidence, available on Amazon.

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