My wife and I were swingers throughout our relationship, and for the first five years, everything was great.

 

"Hey everyone, here’s my story about what’s been one hell of a divorce. My wife and I were swingers throughout our relationship, and for the first five years, everything was great. We have two beautiful boys together.

But about three and a half years ago, she decided she wanted to explore polyamory. I was against it because, for us, cheating was always defined as having feelings for someone else. After arguing for days, I regretfully gave in. Over time, she spiraled into depression.

Six months ago, we met another couple. Since my wife was into polyamory, I thought this was okay. But before things got too far, I begged her to stop and work on our marriage. She refused. She wanted to keep swapping with the first couple, while I wanted out.

Then, I started falling for the woman in the second couple—and she fell for me, too. My wife and I separated, and I moved out to start a life with my new girlfriend.

Here’s where things got crazy. Instead of just filing for divorce, my wife texted me saying she’d drive our car into a river with our kids. She was Baker Acted for that. A few months later, during a custody exchange, she tried to grab my lawfully stored gun. I wrestled it away, and she was Baker Acted again.

The state stepped in, and now I have full custody of my kids. But man, this situation sucks. On the bright side, my girlfriend is incredible—she treats my kids like gold, and we’re happy with just us.

Feel free to roast me or comment. Nobody’s perfect, and we all wish we could do things differently. But I’m not living in the past. The rearview mirror gets smaller the more you focus on the road ahead."

My Take:

First off, let me say that you’re absolutely not alone—so many people have gone through divorce nightmares and found themselves in situations they never imagined. And yeah, it sucks. But you’re already on the right track by focusing on moving forward.

1. The Hard Truth About Divorce

Almost everyone who goes through divorce feels like they’ve been hit by a freight train. It’s messy, painful, and forces you to deal with things you’d rather ignore. What you’re experiencing—custody battles, emotional chaos, and rebuilding your life—is brutal, but it’s also pretty normal for this kind of split.

2. Let Go of the Guilt

It’s clear you’ve made mistakes, but here’s the thing: so has everyone else. The key is to learn from them and not let them define your future. You’re already taking the right steps by focusing on your kids and a healthy relationship with your girlfriend.

3. Protect Your Peace

You’ve got full custody, which means your priority now is your kids’ stability and safety. Minimize contact with your ex as much as possible and keep everything documented. Focus on building a calm, happy home for your boys.

4. Silver Linings Exist

You’ve found a partner who supports you and treats your kids well. That’s huge. And while the situation with your ex is still difficult, you’ve taken steps to protect your children. These are wins, even if they don’t always feel like it.

Helpful Resources:

  1. "Divorce Poison" by Dr. Richard A. Warshak – A guide to protecting your kids from emotional fallout during high-conflict divorces, available on Amazon.
  2. Single Dad Network – Support for navigating single fatherhood and co-parenting challenges.

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